Read when you lose a loved one

 

"Death is inevitable” That’s what the logical part of your brain will say. It’s not easy, even heartbreaking, to lose a family member. You might have thoughts like – “Why them??” It could have been an accident where they could have lost their life or they could have died in any other circumstances, where you wouldn’t have been able to do anything. Uncertainty is the only constant in life.

Don't repent for their death, thinking you could have done more. You did your best, don’t blame yourself. They may be hurt if they watch you lament over their absence. If you loved them dearly then be accepting. Remember your acceptance will make them content, wherever they are. Be the reason for someone's happiness. Their blessings will help you feel better. Keeping them alive in your thoughts that will be the best last gift you could have given them.

The first step in overcoming grief is difficult but not impossible. Recall all the best moments you have spent with him, relish those moments and relive those golden memories.

Follow the three R rule – Recall ,Relish, Relive.

The pain will eventually subside. Loss and grief cannot be rushed, take all the time you need. Be kind to yourself in these trying times.

As hard as it might be, offer your support to your extended family. Make sure they’re alright as well. Ensure that you support organizations that are working towards Covid relief, to show your empathy to all those patients out there. Make it your way to express and process your grief.

Lastly, don’t be too harsh on yourself. These are taxing times- both physically and emotionally- and the loss of a loved one can be difficult.